I grew up with parents who were ministers. I went to a Christian university. I went to Divinity School. I am a fairly avid reader. These things have combined to give me a terrible tendency to think that people know more about the Bible and theology than they actually do.  There have been so many times when I have used a word that nobody in the room understood.

For whatever reason, I have come to a point where I assume that people know what words like sanctification and exegesis mean.  Does this mean that people are inferior because they lack knowledge?  Does it mean that they have failed to become educated on these important matters?  No, it means that I am weird, a good weird, but weird.  It means I have been fortunate to have been able to dedicate a chunk of my life to understanding what these terms mean and to learn the language of theology and Biblical studies.  It also means that I have been given the honor and responsibility to become the educator and explainer.

It’s funny how easily we can forget that there was a time when we didn’t have the answers either. Now that I have two kids, I find myself answering people’s baby questions more often. When new parents ask me about sleep schedules or when to start potty training I have to remind myself that, at one time, these questions would have been as foreign to me as asking me to name the official flower of Lichtenstein (Gentiana, apparently).  I remember seeking to be licensed by our church while in college and not knowing how to answer a single question on the theology questionnaire that the church asked me to fill out (it was probably good that I was not licensed at that time).  Some things are still necessary to teach, even if you have already mastered them yourself.

What I need to remember is that people experience the same thing with the Bible.  They simply don’t know what we are talking about.  I’m not talking about stories in the Bible like David showing grace to Mephibosheth.  I’m talking about stories like Adam and Eve.  People may know the names, but often they don’t know the details or the significance of the story.  Working with students has been a huge help in getting me to teach the Bible without presuming that everyone knows the background details.  Is it the people’s fault?  No, but if they are willing to learn, then we need to be ready for the task.

While I don’t quite grasp all that the term implies, I have read often that we are living in a post-Christian era in the United States.  Familiarity with Christianity can no longer be presumed.  In prior generations people were often exposed to the stories and teachings of the Bible.  Today, it is not surprising to talk with someone who has never heard anything about the Bible.  A few weeks ago we had a Chinese student come to our Sunday morning program which was the first time she had ever been to a church.  It was amazing to watch one of our students show her what a Bible was and explain what it was all about.  Unfortunately, the girl was not able to have a Bible at home because her parents did not allow it.  What a great reminder that we are often talking to students and adults who have hardly any foundation when it comes to the Bible.

Something that we have started to do is to use our Sunday morning times to go over basic theological things like sin, the Holy Spirit, and why read the Bible.  This has allowed our students to begin to develop a vocabulary of faith that they can build on.  We also make sure that we never teach a story from the Bible as being just a story.  Instead we are quick to point out that each story illustrates a theological truth.  We do these things because we know that it is so important to work with students on their level.  We also do it because if students cannot explain why they believe the things that they say they believe, their faith is not likely to endure.

An interesting exercise that will help us in our task of speaking on everyone’s level is to go back and listen to your talks and count how many times you used a phrase or word that only a well-churched individual would grasp.  It’s likely that you are unintentionally using a language that is foreign to many of your people.

We have had a busy couple of months where it seems like we are just doing event after event.  When times like these pop up, I find myself using one of my ministry catch phrases.  The phrase goes like this: “we don’t do anything that does not build up your student’s faith.”  The idea is that I want to tell parents that they can trust all of our events to be worthwhile.  We are not interested in babysitting or filling time with random events because we feel like we are supposed to be doing something.  The problem is that I am not always sure that we mean that.  Intellectually, we mean it, but when I look at our event calendar and our weekly programs, sometimes I feel like we are just doing stuff because, well…because.  This got me thinking about how easy it is to say things that may not be entirely true about our program.  Let’s look at some examples:

1. We don’t do anything that doesn’t make a difference in your student’s life.  I wholeheartedly believe that if you cannot explain why you are doing something (and why it is important) then you need to stop doing it.  We came to terms with this when we stopped doing “game nights” which were basically just directed hang out time instead of planning a worship/teaching time.  Unfortunately, there are still some things we do that don’t entirely make sense outside of the “we’ve always done it” mentality.  Our goal is to always be rethinking and evaluating.  Some things are working great such as our Fall Retreat or our Sunday nights, but some things seem to only exist in order to take up my time and grow my patience.

2. This is a safe place.  I recently asked our students what they liked best about our student ministry and overwhelmingly they said that the atmosphere was their favorite part of being here.  This is great because we have worked hard to create a safe place where students feel comfortable and accepted.  It’s good to see that students feel this way, but, in order to keep this atmosphere, it will continue to take a lot of work.  If we want to be able to say that this is a safe place, it means that we cannot let students lose focus on bringing people in, even if it disrupts the equilibrium that they feel here.  It also means that we must head off drama and strife.  It also probably means that we should excommunicate any students who try to date within the group, but that would not be entirely fair.

3. We are partnering with parents.  This is a tough one because my ministry philosophy acknowledges that parents need to be the main spiritual influence for their teen. However, it is a lot easier to leave the parents out of the loop and just take responsibility.  Obviously this is misguided, but there is a part of me that feels like it sounds too hard to partner with parents.  Unless I engage parents, I am operating at about 20% efficiency.  Disicpling students requires us to engage parents and empower them to connect with their teen.  Often it requires discipling parents so that they have something to offer their student. 

4. We are so thankful for our volunteers.  The key to determining whether or not this is true is to look at how much time you invest in your volunteers.  Have you given them expectations?  Have you given them resources necessary to succeed?  How many thank you notes or thank you calls have you sent or made?  I want to honor my volunteers because they truly make everything work.  I want them to know that they are appreciated, but that takes action.  Your gratitude is not assumed.  Without expressions of gratitude, volunteers will stop feeling appreciated and start feeling taken for granted.

Good ministers never intentionally mislead the people we minister to and with.  Unfortunately, we need to also be honest with ourselves so that we can speak with integrity and consistency.  The problem is that when people doubt our sincerity when discussing our programs, that broken trust gives birth to a whole host of problems for the ministry.

The student minister has a strange role in many churches.  Actually, they have several strange roles.  The student minister’s charge is to disciple students, but how this works leads to a complex set of responsibilities.  Many student ministers find themselves essentially running a mini-church.  They fulfill the role of worship leader or at least worship planner.  They fulfill the role of education minister as they direct the curriculum and discipleship aspect of the student ministry.  They have the task of communicator as they speak or preach to their students.  They fulfill the role of event planner as they schedule opportunities for their students.  If we’re honest, we also probably play the role of janitor more often than we wish as well.

Student ministry is a unique vocation.  It requires much but also offers so much to the minister.  We have the honor and privilege to disciple and speak into the malleable lives of teenagers and their parents.  There are times as a minister where I can hardly believe that this is actually a paid job.  There are times when other people wonder why it is a paid job, and I typically ignore those people.  While it is a great honor to work as a minister, it is also complicated and takes some serious contemplation of what it means to minister.

So many people get into ministry without really considering what doing ministry really is.  So many people see doing ministry as this summer camp type of experience where you are always close to God and you are changing lives simply by reading a Bible verse out loud.  This would also look like a person becoming a doctor because they want to help save lives.  Here is what the potential doctor and the potential minister are missing: they are focusing on the peaks of those vocations, not the normal experiences.  Doctors save lives, but they also put on bandaids, do a ton of paperwork, work long hours, and watch people die.  Ministers make disciples and help save souls, but they also do tons of planning, do a ton of paperwork, clean up messes, and have painful conversations with people making bad decisions who may never start making good decisions.

Does this mean that ministry is unrewarding?  Absolutely not!  It does mean that it will be infinitely frustrating if someone enters ministry thinking that their only role will be preaching to people for 30 minutes each week.  Now that would be an amazing full time job.  Few people, including aspiring ministers, understand what the day to day work of a minister includes.  Just last night a student asked me what my real job was.  I recently read a blog post that suggested that a student minister can really only expect to spend a third of his time in direct work with students.  The other third would be spent with meetings, empowering volunteers, and administration.  If you want unlimited time only doing face to face ministry, that is typically called volunteering.  Being a minister means being a ministry architect and a shepherd.  It means speaking into the lives of students and speaking into the lives of volunteers so that they might speak into the lives of students.  It means keeping the church going so that the student ministry can even exist.

One final note is that regardless of where you are, but especially if you are just about to enter ministry, you need to know that you do not have ministry figured out.  The people who have ministry figured out are typically the people who are destined to be out of the ministry in a year or two.  We are doing spiritual and eternal work.  Ministry is a journey, and you are blessed to have been put on the journey.