Work Flow

Sometimes ministry is all about theory and creativity.  We talk about dreams and visions we have for our ministries, but sometimes ministry is about paperwork and planning.  Depending on your role in ministry you may spend a significant time planning and doing office work or maybe you are mostly out of the office.  Either way, your job is probably full of a multitude of tasks that are often unrelated.

After experiencing the pain of trying to juggle all of my responsibilities by memory, I came to the point where I needed to have a better approach in order to keep stuff from getting dropped.  My answer was to come up with a work flow for my week.

I realized that most of my week followed a pattern.  Preparations for Wednesday night programs were being done Monday and Tuesday, Mondays were full of follow-up and check requests.  Thursdays were used to get Sunday programs worked out.  Noticing this flow, I constructed a super simple list of the things that I would work on each day of the week.  Each day I have a list of the major things that I need to accomplish.  This list gives me a great framework for building my day and helps me to focus on accomplishing the stuff that really needs to be accomplished.

One of the hard parts about working in ministry, which is also one of the great parts about working in ministry, is that you pretty much control your schedule and what you do.  Outside of certain weekly expectations, you basically have to be self-motivated and entrepreneurial.  It’s great not having someone stand over your shoulder telling you what to do, but if you are not a self-starter, it can be a recipe for laziness and mismanaged time.  That is where I have found my work flow to be extremely helpful.  There are days when I am worn out from activities the day before or from nights when my kids decided to wake up every hour, but having a set task list each day ensures that what needs to get done gets done.

One other benefit for doing things this way is that it forces you to be better prepared for your events and programs.  I now have no excuse to be planning Wednesday night activities on Wednesday afternoon, that was Monday and Tuesday’s job.

In case it helps, here are my essential projects for each day:
Monday: Hospital visits, Sunday follow-ups, check requests, website updates, Wednesday night planning.
Tuesday: Staff meeting and staff lunch, send out Sunday curriculum for our morning and evening programs, finish Wednesday night details
Wednesday: Work on upcoming events, lunch at schools, Facebook page update, lunch with other student ministers
Thursday: Finish Sunday details, missions team responsibilities, volunteer encouragement, Wednesday follow-ups, lunch at schools

Keep in mind that these are just the must-be-done-every-week things. And yes, Wednesday has two lunches.  Built onto this work flow are things like gearing up for events, random meetings, preparing for fill-in sermons, and all other kinds of random duties.  The key for me is that I have some level of accountability, even to myself, that the schedule is followed as closely as possible.  Hope this helps.

Where Is Everybody?

Do you know those sounds that absolutely drive you crazy like rubbing a towel on carpet or scratching a chalkboard?  To me, this question, “where is everybody,” is the equivalent of that.  I cannot stand it when a youth worker, paid or volunteer, acts as if they are disappointed in attendance.  Sure you were expecting a few more, but why should the people who came feel bad for coming?

Showing that you are disappointed in attendance at a program or event communicates these three things:

1. Sure it’s nice that you are here, but it would be better if there were other people here too. It’s not good enough for just you guys to have come.

2. Well, I guess we can still sort of have fun with this small crowd. We’ll just make it work if we can.

3. The effort I put into this lesson/program/event is now going to be wasted on a group this small.

One of the biggest problems that arises when youth workers say stuff like this is that we kill morale.  Students have come to have a great experience and now they find out that this experience was dependent upon other kids coming too.

The other big problem with this way of thinking is that we as youth workers miss a huge opportunity to demonstrate how excited we are that anyone shows up to our stuff.  Instead of being excited that we can now have more one on one interaction, we lament the fact that we will have to manufacture more energy for our activities to work.

I get that having a smaller crowd than expected can be discouraging and can force us to change plans.  Last year we had almost 40 students sign up for a weekend event, one that required more than three months of planning.  In the end only 18 students actually attended the event.  I of course declared that my last day in youth ministry forever in the whole universe.  Eventually I calmed down and realized that we now had an opportunity to really invest in a group of kids in a way that would not have been possible with 40.  Did it mean making a few changes to the schedule and events? Sure.  Did it mean that I was a failure or that my career was over? Nope.

Rather than focus on what is totally out of your control, i.e. attendance, it is much better to focus on leaving each event knowing that you made a real impact and that you helped a student have a better relationship with God.  I have found great solace in planning events where we can have an effective event even if five or six kids show up.  And when the numbers are small, I never want to act like it’s not good enough.

4 Things That Will Happen To You

It is always dangerous to speak in generalities, but I am going to do just that because a post called 4 things that might happen to you in ministry is not quite as compelling. It also might not be as honest. For those of you who have been in ministry for a while, I suspect that these things may have happened to you several times. For those of you who are just starting your ministry journey, the best thing that you can do is to prepare for when these things happen to you.
 
1. You will think that you can do someone else’s job better. I used to think that this is one of those things that you should repent of right away and feel bad for not being a team player. I have now actually come to a place where I see this as neutral. There are times when I look at the other ministries of the church and think of ways that I could improve them. Now, while many of these times I would be wrong, there are times when I have been able to give suggestions that helped the overall ministry of the church. The key is whether you will use you ideas to build the church and ministry team or whether you will use it to destroy the team. For example, I really did not think that we were doing the right thing in our service having an instrumental offering time. It slowed the service down and created some weird stops and starts for what we were trying to do. I could have chosen to build support in the congregation or criticize our worship team, or I could use the processes in place to offer a reasoned suggestion in our staff meeting. I chose the latter and the changes made sense so we are doing them.
 
2. You will think it is up to you to find the magic words to convert one of your students. In the past year we have had a number of students who are coming to our programs who are not Christians and have no background in church.  In a movie, I would say a particular phrase where, when hearing it, the student would then break down into tears and confess faith in Jesus and then become the next Billy Graham.  In real life, I will get to know the student, have some conversations about his faith, work with him through some issues he has with believing in God, pray often for his salvation, and in the end hope that he chooses to follow Christ.  There are no magic words and we must realize that we rely on God’s timing to bring people to faith.
 
3. You will be tempted to give advice way above your qualifications. I was told this would happen while a student in divinity school. It took about ten minutes in ministry for me to face this temptation. On one of my first Sundays at this church, I was asked if I would be willing to counsel someone’s 18 year old granddaughter who was pregnant and unmarried. She was not sure what to do with the baby, and I was being asked to give her ministerial advice while still having a hard time identifying myself as a minister. The best advice I could give was to tell her to contact a pregnancy counseling group here in town. I have also been asked for marital advice, how to help a kid with ADHD, how to talk to a teen about an impending divorce, and how to help a kid with extreme anger issues. While my advice or counsel may scratch the surface, if I am honest, I am not qualified to address most of these issues. There are people whose sole jobs are to help people with these circumstances. Counseling is just one of about fifty things that I do.
 
4. You will need to take a break. There are ministers who believe that in order to be doing all that God has called them to do, they must never, ever, ever stop working. If that is true, then I am in trouble. I need breaks. I need time to refocus and regroup. I am guessing that you do too.

Sorting It Out

There are a lot of ways to get somewhere. There are a lot of resources in youth ministry. One of the things that I remember from my first week was the number of catalogs waiting in my mail box at the church. There was a stack almost two feet high with advertisements for small group curriculum, music, and conferences. I had mailings from magicians and gospel quartets. Talk about diversity. So here I was with all of these options, and I didn’t even know what my program looked like or was going to look like.

I must admit that I succumbed to some of the flashier flyers. I joined a video site, bought some books, and I even purchased a drum set for the band. If I had it to do over again, I would have waited before spending any money. It is tempting to buy material that looks so amazing that it will change the way that we think of church, but the reality is that it may not be right for your program or your group. It will take time to learn the culture of those you serve. You need to see where they are and not just consider them to be where you want them to be spiritually.

You also need to have a vision for what you want your program to be about. If you are brand new to student ministry, please understand that there are a lot of ways to minister to students. There is not one model or process that you must buy into to have success. However, you need to develop a process or a model that will work for your group. You need to have a vision about what your program stands for and how you will go about reaching and discipling students.

Once you have a vision for your ministry, then it is time to prioritize your needs. Something that can be difficult for new ministers to understand is the difference between budgeted money and money that you can spend. Most churches will give you a budget, but that does not mean you will ever actually be able to spend that much money because the church may not receive that much money that year. When you prioritize your spending, you will be able to maximize the impact that your money can make. Some things you will certainly need such as small group curriculum. Other things such as a couch or shirts are not necessary, but they could certainly have a value for your program.

You Can’t Go Home Again

A few months ago I went back to my hometown for a quick visit. My family does not live there anymore, and it had probably been about four years since I had visited. As I drove down the main road I barely recognized certain parts of town. While I did not recognize things, as I walked into Chick-fil-a I was sure that I would be playing the part of Norm from Cheers and everyone would shout my name as I entered the doors. This did not happen. In fact, I saw no one that I recognized.

While it would have been great to relive the past, I was faced instead with a very different present. I have also experienced the same thing in ministry. When I came to this church, I brought with me with me some great memories of my own experience as a student in a student ministry. My experiences in high school with church were some of the best times in my life. If it worked for me, I thought, it would definitely work for this church that I was heading to. I envisioned all of the students excited about hanging out at Dairy Queen and wanting to have a great drama team. Basically, I wanted to recreate the ministry that I grew up in, and it was a mistake.

It did not take long to realize that you cannot recreate a ministry, because each church has a different culture and personalities. I tried to get the students into going to Sonic after our Wednesday night program, but it ended up being a really awkward time and I was out about $25 after lending kids money for ice cream. Instead of going off campus (which is a logistical and transportation nightmare, I now realize) we hang out in our student area and play games, fellowship, and have a really good time. This time is now a great tradition in our group, and I can’t think of anything else that would better fit our culture.