We have had a busy couple of months where it seems like we are just doing event after event.  When times like these pop up, I find myself using one of my ministry catch phrases.  The phrase goes like this: “we don’t do anything that does not build up your student’s faith.”  The idea is that I want to tell parents that they can trust all of our events to be worthwhile.  We are not interested in babysitting or filling time with random events because we feel like we are supposed to be doing something.  The problem is that I am not always sure that we mean that.  Intellectually, we mean it, but when I look at our event calendar and our weekly programs, sometimes I feel like we are just doing stuff because, well…because.  This got me thinking about how easy it is to say things that may not be entirely true about our program.  Let’s look at some examples:

1. We don’t do anything that doesn’t make a difference in your student’s life.  I wholeheartedly believe that if you cannot explain why you are doing something (and why it is important) then you need to stop doing it.  We came to terms with this when we stopped doing “game nights” which were basically just directed hang out time instead of planning a worship/teaching time.  Unfortunately, there are still some things we do that don’t entirely make sense outside of the “we’ve always done it” mentality.  Our goal is to always be rethinking and evaluating.  Some things are working great such as our Fall Retreat or our Sunday nights, but some things seem to only exist in order to take up my time and grow my patience.

2. This is a safe place.  I recently asked our students what they liked best about our student ministry and overwhelmingly they said that the atmosphere was their favorite part of being here.  This is great because we have worked hard to create a safe place where students feel comfortable and accepted.  It’s good to see that students feel this way, but, in order to keep this atmosphere, it will continue to take a lot of work.  If we want to be able to say that this is a safe place, it means that we cannot let students lose focus on bringing people in, even if it disrupts the equilibrium that they feel here.  It also means that we must head off drama and strife.  It also probably means that we should excommunicate any students who try to date within the group, but that would not be entirely fair.

3. We are partnering with parents.  This is a tough one because my ministry philosophy acknowledges that parents need to be the main spiritual influence for their teen. However, it is a lot easier to leave the parents out of the loop and just take responsibility.  Obviously this is misguided, but there is a part of me that feels like it sounds too hard to partner with parents.  Unless I engage parents, I am operating at about 20% efficiency.  Disicpling students requires us to engage parents and empower them to connect with their teen.  Often it requires discipling parents so that they have something to offer their student. 

4. We are so thankful for our volunteers.  The key to determining whether or not this is true is to look at how much time you invest in your volunteers.  Have you given them expectations?  Have you given them resources necessary to succeed?  How many thank you notes or thank you calls have you sent or made?  I want to honor my volunteers because they truly make everything work.  I want them to know that they are appreciated, but that takes action.  Your gratitude is not assumed.  Without expressions of gratitude, volunteers will stop feeling appreciated and start feeling taken for granted.

Good ministers never intentionally mislead the people we minister to and with.  Unfortunately, we need to also be honest with ourselves so that we can speak with integrity and consistency.  The problem is that when people doubt our sincerity when discussing our programs, that broken trust gives birth to a whole host of problems for the ministry.

The student minister has a strange role in many churches.  Actually, they have several strange roles.  The student minister’s charge is to disciple students, but how this works leads to a complex set of responsibilities.  Many student ministers find themselves essentially running a mini-church.  They fulfill the role of worship leader or at least worship planner.  They fulfill the role of education minister as they direct the curriculum and discipleship aspect of the student ministry.  They have the task of communicator as they speak or preach to their students.  They fulfill the role of event planner as they schedule opportunities for their students.  If we’re honest, we also probably play the role of janitor more often than we wish as well.

Student ministry is a unique vocation.  It requires much but also offers so much to the minister.  We have the honor and privilege to disciple and speak into the malleable lives of teenagers and their parents.  There are times as a minister where I can hardly believe that this is actually a paid job.  There are times when other people wonder why it is a paid job, and I typically ignore those people.  While it is a great honor to work as a minister, it is also complicated and takes some serious contemplation of what it means to minister.

So many people get into ministry without really considering what doing ministry really is.  So many people see doing ministry as this summer camp type of experience where you are always close to God and you are changing lives simply by reading a Bible verse out loud.  This would also look like a person becoming a doctor because they want to help save lives.  Here is what the potential doctor and the potential minister are missing: they are focusing on the peaks of those vocations, not the normal experiences.  Doctors save lives, but they also put on bandaids, do a ton of paperwork, work long hours, and watch people die.  Ministers make disciples and help save souls, but they also do tons of planning, do a ton of paperwork, clean up messes, and have painful conversations with people making bad decisions who may never start making good decisions.

Does this mean that ministry is unrewarding?  Absolutely not!  It does mean that it will be infinitely frustrating if someone enters ministry thinking that their only role will be preaching to people for 30 minutes each week.  Now that would be an amazing full time job.  Few people, including aspiring ministers, understand what the day to day work of a minister includes.  Just last night a student asked me what my real job was.  I recently read a blog post that suggested that a student minister can really only expect to spend a third of his time in direct work with students.  The other third would be spent with meetings, empowering volunteers, and administration.  If you want unlimited time only doing face to face ministry, that is typically called volunteering.  Being a minister means being a ministry architect and a shepherd.  It means speaking into the lives of students and speaking into the lives of volunteers so that they might speak into the lives of students.  It means keeping the church going so that the student ministry can even exist.

One final note is that regardless of where you are, but especially if you are just about to enter ministry, you need to know that you do not have ministry figured out.  The people who have ministry figured out are typically the people who are destined to be out of the ministry in a year or two.  We are doing spiritual and eternal work.  Ministry is a journey, and you are blessed to have been put on the journey.

Not long ago I had a conversation with a youth pastor of a large church in our area that absolutely rocked my ministry perspective.  Due to a school schedule conflict, a small group of about 15 students that were a part of his student ministry could not attend their church’s large mission trip.  As a concession, this lead youth pastor agreed to take this small group on a later trip.  The youth pastor went on and on about how great it was to get to spend time with such a small number of students.  Ironically, 15 is a pretty good number of students for me when it comes to getting students to attend an event that lasts more than a day.  It really made me wonder if I was using the size of my group to our advantage.  What were we doing that embraced our size rather than in spite of our size?  Are we making the most of our ability to be flexible and spontaneous with certain events?  Are we using our smaller size to have big conversations?

The term leveraging has become a somewhat overused one in church leadership recently, but I feel that it particularly applies to this discussion.  Regardless of your church’s size, you must use that factor to your advantage.  When I look at the big programs in our area, I lament our lack of resources and critical mass for big events.  When I look at their numbers, I admit that I get antsy and wonder if I am making a difference.  Here’s what is crazy: sometimes when large church ministers look at smaller churches, they wonder the same thing.  They worry about students falling through the cracks and wish they could run a simpler ministry that does not require charter buses when they want to take a trip to Sonic.

One of the problems with leveraging your groups’s size is that the models of ministry that are advertised in books and articles are almost entirely based on very large churches.  If a student minister with 40 kids tries to do everything Saddleback or Willow Creek does, there will typically be problems with duplicating that model in the smaller context.  The resources that come out of larger churches are great, but the problem arises when we think that our church should look like that church or our program should look like that program.  It would be like Mayberry deciding to restructure using the plans of New York City.  It just won’t work, and it really shouldn’t.  When we focus on becoming more like a larger church’s ministry, we are denying all of the benefits of being a smaller group.

The same holds true for larger churches wishing that they could be smaller.  The trick is to embrace the size of your church and determine ways to make the group smaller.  Perhaps my friend saw the benefit of the smaller mission trip group and will consider doing multiple mission trips with smaller students.  Maybe rather than having the large group times as your key point of emphasis, larger churches constantly discuss the importance of small group discipleship.  I served as part of a large college ministry that found it difficult to disciple the mass of college students who came in the doors.  The answer was to create small groups that brought certain people together and created different discipleship opportunities.

In the end, our mission is not to have an awesome program.  Our mission is not to have the largest number of students in town.  Our mission is to make disciples.  A huge step in doing that is to stop worrying about how cool our program looks on a flow chart or how awesome our logo looks.  When we get down to simply looking for the unique ways that our church can lead students to know Jesus and become his disciple, we will find that God has given us everything we need to accomplish the task that he has called us to.